Advice from a cousin, a cowboy, and the Lord

Four years ago, my cousin Justin departed Epsom’s Burgess Farms, trading Southern Vance High School’s pomp and circumstance for UNC Wilimington’s beaches — and classrooms. As a graduation gift, his mother organized a scrapbook of letters from well wishers, an opportunity for family and friends to congratulate Justin, while offering encouragement as he embarked on his four years of strict study.

Somehow, despite its more eccentric character, my letter made its way into the scrapbook. I’m sure Aunt Michele winced when she affixed my letter, featuring a magazine clipping of Willie Nelson brandishing long braids and a guitar, into Justin’s memory book.

My mid 20’s “words of wisdom” began:“Congratulations, Justin! As Willie Nelson states in one of his more popular songs, ‘So You Think You’re a Cowboy:’

‘So live life as you find it,
The best that you can,
Tomorrow cannot right the wrong.
Don’t wait for tomorrow,
To bring you your dreams,
‘Cause by the time that you get there,
they’re gone.’ ”

I chose this Willie Nelson composition, a lyrical masterpiece reflective of life’s challenges, because its meaning has evolved in my life over the years.

Having triumphed over college, I’m certain Justin understands his dreams are achieved only through effort. And as he continues along life’s journey, Justin will realize that “tomorrow cannot right the wrong” — but living one’s best, despite the past, is the best any of us can do.

After my lyrical analysis, I continued reading my letter to Justin, chuckling at the following, although accurate, witticisms:

• “Next, I encourage you to treat life as the thrilling adventure that it is. Grasp the many opportunities available to you, and most importantly, take risks. However, and from experience, I advise you to not tell your grandparents of these adventures and risks!”

• Travel. Travel every opportunity you get, and study abroad while in college (which he did). My recommendations include the Czech Republic, Italy, Switzerland and Ireland ... well the list goes on and on. While you are there, you might decide to grow your hair out, grow a beard, and learn to play the guitar, banjo or harmonica. Just do this away from home!”

• I ended my letter: “Always keep Epsom a part of your spirit.”

Yet, while composing this letter four years ago, I omitted one factor that guided me not only through the hurdles of my college career, but those faced in following transition years.

Despite country and western lyrics and humourous quips, I failed to mention that true success, whether in college or while carving out one’s career post-graduation, rests in the spiritual guidance of God. In every, “What’s next?” quandary of my life, God’s answer has errupted into a series of life-altering, unquestionable resolutions. His undoubtable force has always propelled me into that next phase.

Jeremiah 29:11 says “... For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future ...”

And although this scripture wasn’t included in Justin’s high school graduation letter four years ago, I’m including it this time.

Congratulations, little cousin!

Gina Eaves is an Epsom native, a Peace College graduate and an advertising representative at The Daily Dispatch. Her columns appear on Sundays. E-mail her at geaves@hendersondispatch.com. Read more: The Daily Dispatch - Advice from a cousin a cowboy and the Lord